Dealing With Infidelity – How do You Eliminate Those Disturbing Images?

If you are the victim of an affair, it is not uncommon to carry around images of your spouse and his paramour together in your head constantly. Sometimes the hardest part of dealing with infidelity is getting those haunting images and thoughts of the two of them together out of your mind. You are not alone, other affair victims feel exactly the way you do.

Finding out that your spouse is having or had an affair is one of life's most stressful experiences. It is normal to want to know all the details but once you do, it consumes your very being. It's like a horror show or a bad dream that just don't want to go away. You imagine them having fun together, that everything is so wonderful between them, better than it ever could have been with the two of you.

So now you're stuck with this fantasy of the person whom you loved and trusted with every ounce of your being with someone else other than you. Your images can take many forms but if you are a woman, most likely you imagine the other woman to be physically perfect in every way, younger and more desirable than you. This may or may not be the case though. At times you may feel that dealing with infidelity along with the feelings and images in your head will never go away.

These recurring images and thoughts can drain the life out of you, and then you feel more vulnerable and find the images even more difficult to escape. In the beginning it is going to take a great deal of effort on your part to gain back the power over the images in your head. One thing that you can do is to block out a period of time where you can sit quietly by yourself without any interruptions. Try to find a spot that is secluded and where you feel comfortable and relaxed. Once you're all settled and relaxed, it is time to let those images in. This is empowering because you are in control , you decide when and how they can invade your mind.

For other ways to exorcise those images from your head you may need to seek the help of a professional marriage counselor or consult other programs on dealing with infidelity. Even though you and your spouse may have reconciled, you will most likely still see those images for a long time. But it can be done. With the right kind of help you can learn the steps necessary for eliminating those disturbing images from your mind.

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