Saturday, March 31, 2012

Free Printable Calendars for April and May

The new printables are ready for April and May! Each one has the monthly calendar at a glance, and the following sections to write in:
  • To Do's - Things you need to do today
  • Hope To Do's - Additional things you'd like to do if time permits
  • Prayer Requests 
  • Reminders 
  • Bible Reading - What you plan to read in the Bible or a verse that comes to mind
  • Groceries
  • Thinking Ahead - Goals or future commitments
  • People to Call
Each page is intended for daily use, therefore I'd recommend printing off several at a time.

And if you haven't checked it out yet, take a look at my weekly housekeeping schedule. It's a great way to get the house clean and keep it looking that way!

If you would like to view or download the printables for April and May,
just click the links below the image. (Originals are full-sized pages).
Printable Calendar for April 2012

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Darlene

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Treasure the Value of Virtue


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Darlene

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Thursday, March 29, 2012

Friday Five - My Favorites from Around the Web

Sharing five favorites from around the web!


1. Easter Resurrection Garden - The Encouraging Home

Photo credit: Melissa Holt
The Encouraging Home has posted a tutorial, And from the looks of it, it's easy enough to make with the kids! 

2. Dealing with Bad Attitudes in Children - Women Living Well


Courtney writes, "I’ve identified a few behaviors that are habits in our children’s lives. Essentially they are sinful strongholds. My children have become slaves to their habits and they will not be broken through my teaching but through my training." To read the rest of the post, click the links below:

Dealing with Bad Attitudes in Children Part 1
Dealing with Bad Attitudes in Children Part 2

3. Wisdom Blessings and Applesauce - The Calm After the Storm


Wisdom gleaned from 66 years of marriage. Read the article at: The Calm After the Storm

4. Faith Could Cost Him His Votes - Blessed Beyond Measure



Last week, American Idol contestant, Colton Dixon, made headlines, and not because of his song choice. Reports stated that producers of the show asked him to "tone down" his faith references on his social media posts. He was warned that his statements could cost him the competition in terms of voters. Read the rest of the article at Blessed Beyond Measure

5. Why Thology Matters.



Why Theology Matters from anberlin_fan on GodTube.


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How I Have Become a Better Housewife

How I Have Become a Better Housewife

By Vanessa A Palmer


In my life, I have been a housewife for over 30 years and these are some of the ways that I totally spoil and make my partner a happier person.
The first way is to make a list of all the things that really need to get done on a daily basis. This makes things go so much better and easier for you. I normally start at one end of the house and work my way to the other end. Be sure to give yourself enough time to complete each task but to leave you some relax time as well.
The second thing is to make sure you do these tasks everyday so that there is little or nothing left to do when your partner gets home but to help him or to make him feel he has your undivided attention. I have found that my partner loves to feel that he has my whole attention after he comes home from working hard all day. I have even ran him a bath and laid out everything he would need for it including clothes.
The third thing is to try to help your partner as much as possible by not bothering him at work. So many women I have met call their partners at work for the least little thing and that can become bothersome. Not only to your partner but to the company he works for as well.
In my case we own animals so there is a task in itself. I make sure the animals are all fed and taken out if necessary so that he does not have to do that when he comes home. It makes for some really rewarding time with the animals and your partner.
I also try to have him a cold beverage waiting on him when he gets home. I know that he has worked hard all day and will probably need something cold to drink. For everyone this will be different as some people would prefer hot drinks as opposed to cold. So take that into consideration.
In conclusion, I do these things everyday and I have a very happy and spoiled partner. He tells me everyday how much he appreciates what I do and not having to come home to a mess or to having to take out our animals. I hope these tips help you to become a better housewife.

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Secret to Saving Your Marriage

A Secret to Saving Your Marriage


A Secret to Saving Your Marriage

Copyright (c) 2012 Ethan Andrews


You can save your marriage and it can start with something you have complete control over, and that works regardless of what anyone else around you does. One of the first things you need to do is to gain a new or renewed perspective on various aspects of your relationship. The way you see things can have a positive and significant impact that brings the two of you closer together.

Here are a few tips for changing your perspective for the better. Remember, often times things are never as bad, and yes, maybe never as good as they may seem to be. Let's think on this. At times, we let ourselves get all worked up over something that isn't as terrible as we make it out to be, but we act at that moment as if there were nothing as terrible as what just happened to us. Yes, the event or action may very well be bad, even very much so. But it is not the end of the world. Let's not treat it as such. Because we will need to take small steps as well as big ones, and having a good perspective on things brings tremendous value to our relationships.

Also, when we see positive signs and steps that the relationship is getting better, we can give too much credit and hang all our hopes on it, only for it to be an illusion and it dashes our dreams for restoring the marriage. Now, should we take comfort and encouragement in good signs and improving aspects of the relationship? Of course! Just don't put too much stock in it or "read" too much into it. Be thankful for the improvement, see it as another step on the road to a better and improved marriage, and leave it at that. If every time you see a glimmer of hope and the next day or week it seems everything has taken 3 steps back for that one forward, you're going to be on an emotional roller coaster that only hurts you. Stay calm, be hopeful and realize that while things may truly and permanently see significant leaps forward for the positive, it may not be the case. Smile, say thank you on the inside, and just let it unfold.



Remember, keep a healthy balance between thinking everything is falling apart and just "knowing" it's all better now because we saw and experienced an aspect of the relationship get better. It may take time and it may happen quickly. Don't rush things and yet, keep an open mind that things can do and develop quickly. Let the experiences happen on their own time frame, but you keep your perspective on them in check. To help accomplish that, be quick to listen, slow to speak and never act immediately. This doesn't mean you shouldn't be angry over something. As you know, there are things to be angry over. It doesn't mean you shouldn't answer and give your opinion. You should. It does mean that how you see things will determine, to a large degree, how your spouse and everyone else acts around you.

You see, it's not just everyone else's actions, especially your spouse's, that you need to keep in a reasonable, healthy perspective, It's your own, as well. How does your spouse view you? Even when you are right, how does it come across? What's it like talking with you or living with you?

Right now, there are no right and wrong answers. This isn't a blame game. It's an exercise to see and get a grip on, ok, where are we, really? What is it like to be around me and what is my spouse like? How can I view this area of my life differently so that I have more control over the relationship, at least from my end, and end up with more control and influence in their eyes as well to help mend and restore and repair everything we need to have a healthy, happy and vibrant marriage that creates wonders for both of us! You can do this and it's easy when you begin practicing it. Get started today and enjoy the benefits it can bring.


Ethan Andrews has helped countless couples as a relationship advisor. If you want to save your marriage and discover the key things you can do to restore almost any relationship, even if you're the only one who wants to, you can visit his website at http://www.marriagehealed.com

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Things To Have In Your Wedding Album

Getting Married - Things To Have In Your Wedding Album

Author: Matt Kirkman
As soon as your wedding date is set and you have chosen the right wedding photography Shropshire, it is time to ensure that your wedding album turns out flawlessly. You must have some idea of what you want to use in your album or leave out from it; but if you are unclear about where to begin in planning it out, read on for a brief low-down on the fundamentals of wedding album composition.



The Arrangements

Fifty percent of the charm of a beautiful wedding ceremony lies in the wedding ceremony preparations, and if these extraordinary moments are captured right, you are already on your way to creating that ideal wedding album. When talking over the shots, be sure you ask your professional photographer to capture the wedding dress in detail - either hanging or draped on a chair and also a close-up of the bride’s shoes and bouquet. The photographer should also capture the bride making preparations - putting on her make-up and garter, having her hair fine-tuned etc. Once completely ready, the bride needs to be captured in full-length; this is also the ideal time to take a variety of mood shots with the bride silently waiting/contemplating or praying etc. It would also be nice to obtain some shots with her mother - hugging/smiling - and with the bridesmaids and flower-girls, ready to go.



For the groom’s side, the preparations are equally priceless. Photos of the groom altering his cravat, spending some special moments with his father and groomsmen among others provide the album a well-rounded coverage of your complete celebration. The moments when the bride and groom are setting out in their vehicle/limousine/ride could also be captured to set the scenario for the actual wedding ceremony.



The Marriage Ceremony

Marriage Ceremony
There isn't any doubt that when it concerns covering the wedding and reception, you can never go wrong with some of the old favourite pictures. These include the groom anticipating his bride in a classical setting such as looking out the window; details of the bride’s arrival; a wide shot of the ceremony space from the back with and without guests. Obviously there must be photographs of the ring bearer, the flower-girls along with the groom and groomsmen awaiting the bride at the end of the aisle. The various stages of the bride’s walk down the aisle together with her escort must also be recorded in detail including full frontal and back shots and over-the-shoulder shots of the bride and groom approaching each other.



As soon as the wedding ceremony commences, your wedding photographer must capture close-ups of the rings, the kiss along with your parents’ expressions of sheer joy. When the ceremony is over, the wedding album could entail the happy couple’s departure and the guests showering them with good wishes, confetti and presents etc.

Prior To The Reception

The optimal time for the photographer to complete an intimate photo shoot of you and your family is prior to the reception. You, your partner and important family members could freshen up for this all-important shoot that will be valued by you for years to come.

Along with the classic shots, the wedding photographer could also modify the album to your liking by shooting you as a couple in your preferred settings or in a non-traditional set-up. Anything such as a favourite outdoor location, a memorable urban spot or just a couple of candid poses to your liking. There is endless choices and a effective photographer will do everything he is able to to make your shoot memorable as well as your photographs timeless.

The Wedding Celebration

By the point of the wedding celebration, you and your guests will probably be fairly relaxed and in the mood to party. You can tell you have a great photographer when you can completely trust him to capture the reception, the décor and ambiance in tasteful detail.

While talking about the reception together with your photographer, do point out any specific moments that you want included in the album so there isn't any confusion later on.

Your wedding photographer Shropshire will work very hard to record your wedding day as close to your liking as possible. Make it easier for yourself as well as for him by discussing all your requirements well before time to obtain the best out of your wedding photo album.



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Get changed and to Be an Attractive Woman

Get changed and to Be an Attractive Woman


Get changed and to Be an Attractive Woman

Author: cathyswift
Spring is here now, a season that means rebirth, renewal and regrowth. Then why not take the chance to add a bit more color, or experiment with new accessories or a hair style that may flatter your face a bit more?


Firstly and the most importantly, know who you are. Don't hide behind your clothes, let them whisper authentic musings of who you truly are. You can be pretty but still unattractive if you don't have your own thoughts and ideas. "Go there", "Wear this", "Do that", "look at these". Yeah, no. Don't listen to others all the time, do anything you want to do and be true to yourself.


"Every woman could be the most beautiful in her own way" – Byrne Victor, VII CODE

Is there anything you could improve to make yourself more interesting and fun to talk to? Be nice and smile a lot. A nice person turns into a prettier person in the eyes of everyone and a little smile will make you more attractive.


Take care of yourself. Find the balance between weight and eating, between enough sleep and reasonable exercise. Being healthy makes you more energetic, better for your mental health.


Lastly, we cannot say physical appearance completely determines attractiveness, but this is still a factor, especially the face of a woman. Get a haircut or new style that fits your facial shape and take care of your skin. Daily skin care (VII CODE O2C All-star Oxygen Eye Cream) is necessary to prevent future fine lines, dark circles, puffiness and sunspots.


VII CODE - Living a simply happy and luxurious life is to have less, but what you do have should be of luxurious quality that impresses and comforts, helping to show more of your true beauty and self-confidence, thus you will be the most attractive one not only in this spring but your whole life.


You are always busy with your work, your social life and your family. Sometimes, you have to stop for a while and take a moment to look around the world you are in, especially too see yourself. What do you see? Do you like what you see? Are there aspects you would like to see improve?


Look yourself in the mirror, how the person looks? Does she still beautiful, active and young? Or just look so tired and older than her real age? That would be bad if you are in the second situation, it means you lose the balance in your life. Sometimes you are lost, what you want is buried by your endless work and social activities. Will you regret one day that you don’t show more attention to your face and skin care because you are so concentrated on your work?


"Keep trying and improve what you are not satisfied, in time you will be changed and amazed."                 – VII CODE

Most likely you know of something that you would like to change, right? It could be the work situation you are in or your mental status. The one in the mirror need some changes, get rid of the extra stress, and get rid of the wrinkles, fine lines from the face, make you a new one. Let’s take example of your face and skin care change:


Be focused on what you want to change. Once clear about the intensions, you will know what you should do to achieve it. You want to look young, then you should make a simple skin care routine for daily, at least you should do the cleansing and moisturizer day and night. Skin care is more important than makeup if you want a perfect skin. Prepare two different creams, one for face and one for eye.


Be patient. It will take time for one to make some changes. Like an eye cream, fine lines or dark circles are not appeared in one day, so a few weeks or months will be taken to see the change. VII Code All-star O2C Oxygen Eye Cream is an example. You will never know VII CODE is great till you find the fine lines disappeared two months later.


Be creative. If you have tried many products with no good result, why not discover new products you will love? Make new purchase with confidence, dot try the normal one like others do. Because what works on others doesn't mean it will also work on you. You use Estee Lauder before then you can try VII CODE now, for instance.


Whatever you wish to change, believe that you can make positive changes you want to see in your life and even the world. Keep in mind that you should live in such a way that embodies what you seek, remember how powerful you really are. 


 


Wednesday, March 28, 2012

Free eBooks - Esther: The Beauty of Courageous Submission and Ruth: A Woman of Virtue

Free eBooks for Facebook Fans!

Life Application Bible Study: Esther: The Beauty of Courageous Submission

At ten chapters and 114 pages long, this is the perfect eBook for Bible study at home!

The book of Esther is a beautiful story of one woman who courageously gave of herself for the will of God and His people. Women like you and I can glean inspiration from her strength, wisdom and her dignity as we face our fears and boldly stand before the throne of our God.

The events in the story of Esther reveal the plot of one man who desired to have God’s people destroyed, and the courage of a woman who stepped out in faith to turn that plan around.

Esther gives us something to celebrate as it chronicles the deliverance of God’s chosen people, the Jews. It is also a great lesson on Biblical submission for both women and the church in general. It inspires believers to trust God's wisdom and timing, and to stand strong in the face of persecution.
“Righteousness” is one of the main themes in the book. This story teaches us that righteousness is imputed to us. It’s given to us freely through faith in Jesus Christ.

Life Application Bible Study: Ruth, A Woman of Virtue

Enjoy an in-depth study on the book of Ruth. Learn about the relationship between the Moabites and the Jews and the underlying conflict between the two cultures. Dig into scripture as we talk about Levitical laws and customs of the day. Read about the Jewish feasts surrounding the story and find out what their significance is to our faith. Find out why Ruth was the only woman in scripture referred to as "virtuous," and glean wisdom that is applicable to your life today.*

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(See instructions for download and how to get it onto a Kindle below.)

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To download the PDF: 

  1. Go to the TWW facebook page
  2. "Like" the page
  3. Click the "Freebies" icon
  4. Click on the image of each book cover
  5. When the PDF opens, save it to your computer by right clicking on one of the pages and choosing "save as." 

Get the eBook Onto a Kindle:

If you want to get the PDF onto your Kindle, you can simply email the PDF file there.

If you don't know your Kindle email address, you should be able to find it through your Kindle home page. I went to mine and I clicked the "i" for information and it came right up. It is called, “Send-to-Kindle Email Address.” (I use the iPad app.)

You might also find by going to Home > Menu > Settings > Device Email.
Note: You may need to use the next page button to scroll down to the Device Email section. 

* These are updated and reformatted versions of the Bible studies that were previously published on this blog.

You are loved by an almighty God,

Darlene

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Tuesday, March 27, 2012

"Easy" Isn't Worth the Cost of an Unhappy Marriage


Guest Contributor, Ashleigh Slater

Tears of disappointment threatened to flow as I listened to the words my husband Ted was saying. "I’m having dinner with a client right after work, so I should be home by 7 p.m. Can I bring the Tylenol home then? Things are just really busy here and I don’t think I can get away before then."


Just a half hour earlier I’d called Ted asking if he could use his lunch hour to pick up a bottle of infant’s Tylenol and bring it home. Our two-month old had received five vaccinations that morning and I’d arrived home to discover we were completely out of the pain reliever. Not eager to pack three young kids in our mini van a second time that day, I called him in desperation.

My knight in shining armor hesitantly agreed to come to my rescue. But within 30 minutes, things had changed. He could not—or would not, as I was quick to think—come to my rescue after all.

"I’ll go get it," I snapped, not trying to cover the disappointment in my voice. "I don’t want her to have to wait all day for the medicine. She might get a fever and since we’re going out of town tomorrow, I don’t want to risk that."

Hanging up the phone, I told my four-year-old and two-year-old it was time to go to the store.

"Why?" my oldest asked.

Frustrated, I answered, "Because Papa can’t go to the store. So we have to."

"I don’t want to go," she replied.

My sentiments exactly.

While I’m normally careful not to speak poorly of their papa, I gave in to my anger, deciding not to guard my tongue. "Neither do I. But we have to go. Believe me, Mommy’s not too happy with Papa right now."

Not too happy was an understatement! Inside I was fuming. On a scale of 1 to 10, my upset odometer was nearing 11. I couldn’t believe he wasn’t able to sneak away for forty-five minutes to help me. Forty-five minutes! To me, it seemed like nothing in the scheme of an eight-to nine-hour workday. Especially since tonight he had a work-related dinner and would be home later than normal, leaving me to handle the evening meal and possibly bedtime on my own.

As I helped the girls put on their shoes and buckled them into their car seats, I was determined Ted would hear about this when he got home.

Yet, as I drove to the store, the Lord gently spoke to my hard heart.

Quietly, He reminded me of the conversations Ted and I had had concerning his work load. Ted had mentioned several times how each day he felt like he was just chipping away at all the work before him. He’d already skipped lunch several days this week because of work demands. Not only that, but he was taking tomorrow off, leaving him only today to finish all that needed to be done before the weekend.

My hard heart started to soften. As it did, I was reminded of something I try hard to practice: holding my fire.

Holding my fire, especially in my marriage, isn’t easy. What is easy is to allow myself to embrace anger and frustration when I feel wronged. What is easy is to let my husband "have it" when his choices in a particular situation don’t please me and my preferences. But many times, easy isn’t worth the cost it can bring: a conflict-ridden, unhappy marriage.

Instead, it’s the hard work of self-control that helps to produce the fruit of a happy marriage. Self-control to determine whether a certain incident—such as not bringing home infant’s Tylenol over lunch—is or isn’t worth the conflict. Self-control to watch my words, yes, but also a heart attitude that births those words. Self-control to exercise grace and understanding … when I feel anything but.

Ultimately, self-control to walk in wisdom about when to hold my fire.

My thoughts turned to the story of Queen Esther. This biblical heroine is an example of a woman who walked in wisdom in the area of holding her fire.

When Esther’s cousin, Mordecai, informed her of Haman’s evil plot to exterminate her people, she didn’t rush out to approach the King or lash out in anger against Haman. Instead, she held her fire, instructing Mordecai:

Go, gather all the Jews to be found in Susa, and hold a fast on my behalf, and do not eat or drink for three days, night or day. I and my young women will also fast as you do. Then I will go to the king, though it is against the law, and if I perish, I perish." (Esther 4:16)

When faced with a life and death, time-sensitive situation, she took the time to turn to the Lord. Esther didn’t rush to address the situation in her own strength and in her own timing. She knew she would need the Lord’s favor and wisdom when approaching the King. And when she did eventually visit the King, she didn’t simply blurt out the problem. Esther waited for the right opportunity. She’s a perfect picture of self-control.

Though the battles I face are smaller than Esther’s, I can still learn from her. Her story teaches me that walking in self-control is a God-given safeguard. Self-control in my words and actions and timing can make all the difference in my relationship with Ted.

At the end of the day, I decided to hold my fire over the bottle of infant’s Tylenol. Rather than confront Ted about it, I met him with the grace and understanding that flows from a self-controlled heart.

Ashleigh Slater is the editor of Ungrind. As a wife and stay-at-home mom, she enjoys moonlighting as a freelance writer, proofreader, and editor. Her writing has appeared in print and online in publications including Marriage Partnership, Thriving Family, MOMSense, Brio, Brio & Beyond, Guideposts’ Angels on Earth, Focus on the Family Magazine, Radiant, Campus Life’s Ignite Your Faith, Focus on Your Child, Clubhouse, Jr., Small Group Exchange, and Sunday/Monday Woman. She spent five years as a media critic for LinC (Living in Christ): Youth Connecting Faith and Culture and two years writing music reviews and artist bios for All Music Guide. She graduated from Regent University with a M.A. in Communication. She currently lives in the Ozark Mountains of Missouri with her husband Ted and four daughters. Visit her at www.AshleighSlater.com.

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Building Faith-Focused Support



There are few things more damaging than the influence of close friends who aren’t in step with God. I’ve seen this happen in my own life, which is why I strive to surround my daughter with Christian influence. She’s fourteen-years-old and soon she’ll be participating in more activities on her own, like going to the mall with a friend, or babysitting at a house with unsupervised access to a computer and phone. When she’s out of my sight I need to know that I have given her the necessary tools to handle herself appropriately...

Read the rest of the article over at The Better Mom where I'm guest posting...


You are loved by an almighty God,

Darlene

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Monday, March 26, 2012

3 Ways to Achieve Unity in Your Marriage - And a Titus 2sday Link up!!



Drawn from my archives

The tagline on this blog is “Empowering Wives to Joyfully Serve.” To some the word “serve” is music to the ears, but to others it’s detestable that I’d even suggest such a notion. To them, the idea of women serving in the home is archaic, old-fashioned, and out-dated. I say it’s refreshing!


The notion of 50/50, where couples give only as much as they are given is not only self-centered--it lacks strength, because what see here are two halves becoming one whole. In order to build a relationship that has life-lasting results, we need the strength of two complete people coming together in unity where each one esteems the other higher than themselves, and where each one is willing to give more than they take.

When the going gets rough—and it will at times—love requires 100 percent of our heart. I saw that first hand last year when after 60 years of marriage my parents discovered that my dad had numerous brain tumors. My mom who is suffering with COPD (Chronic obstructive pulmonary disease) took care of him day and night. As I witness her labour of love I saw the value in serving others.

Putting my own thoughts aside, let’s take a look a Philippians 2, where we are instructed on how to achieve love and unity. Here we see three steps that empower us to joyfully serve:

  1. Give up any selfish ambition or conceit, including your need to be right.
  2. Humbly value others higher than yourself.
  3. Don’t focus on your own interests, but be sensitive to others.
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. ~ Philippians 2:3-4, NIV

Humbly serving your family might be archaic to you, but for me it’s based on timeless wisdom that offers life-lasting results.

You are loved by an almighty God,

Darlene

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Fashion Essentials For Spring 2012

Fashion Essentials For Spring 2012
Fashion Essentials For Spring 2012

By Reena Mariel


It's officially spring time and I can just literally see myself basking in the warmth and colors of the season. I don't know about you but spring is just one of those seasons that brings a lot of warmth and smiles. I just can't wait for the wonderful things that's going to happen! I'm now all for wearing bright pieces and cute patterns. That said, here are some fashion essentials for this season.
FASHION ESSENTIALS FOR SPRING 2012
1. Colored Skinnies
Nothing beats the spring with a pop of color. Colored skinny jeans are the best to wear during the warmer seasons. Tone down bright pants with neutral or pastel colored tops. Try wearing a loose top and tuck it inside the pants. Use a pretty belt and accessorize with some bracelets, a watch or even a necklace. Let your hair down for a more casual feel.
2. A Pretty Maxi Dress
Spring wouldn't be complete without a pretty maxi dress. It may be a little bit daunting for petites to wear this but it can be done. Try wearing high heeled wedges and accessorize with layers of bracelets and a huge pair of sunglasses. Now that's what I call laid-back chic!
3. Bright Rompers
A cute romper can definitely get you anywhere during the most casual of days. Choose a bright colored romper such as corals and reds and pair them with your favorite cardigans. Try to keep your hair in a side ponytail for an effortless feel. You can also amp up your style by mixing and matching different accessories.
4. Knit Sweaters
I'm not talking about the thick, fuzzy, winter sweaters here. I am talking about those sweaters that you wear during those chilly spring days. Choose fun colors and patterns and pair them with your favorite shorts. You can also wear your sneakers for those lazy days where you want to look chic but effortless.
5. Shorts
Of course, the warmer seasons wouldn't be complete without having to wear your favorite pair of shorts. Regardless of the style, shorts �are one of the most casual things to wear. Dress them down during lazy days and dress them up if you want to wear your pair for a night out with friends. All it needs is just proper accessories and you are good to go.
6. Lazy T-shirts
These shirts can help you get by during those lazy casual days. If you find it a little boring to wear your usual jeans and t-shirt, dress them up by using colorful shorts and pair them with unique sneakers.
These are just some of the few spring fashion essentials. Don't forget to stock up on cute pieces. With these essentials in your wardrobe, you will never go wrong with your style this season.
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Sunday, March 25, 2012

How Can I Forgive Myself?


Dear Darlene,

I need some advice. One day I got a message from a guy I had met a few months before. I knew his wife through family and she had mentioned several times that they were filing for divorce because they couldn't stand each other anymore, so I felt justified in being his friend. If I had been any friend at all I would have been pushing him back toward his wife, telling him to fight for his marriage, and cutting contact, but I didn't. I couldn't, because I NEEDED him in a way I had never needed anyone. I needed him to validate me. I needed someone, ANYONE to want me.


Within a couple of months we were much more than best friends and I knew it. We were towing a very blurry line and it didn't take much to push us over to the wrong side. In 2009, at 19-years-old, I broke the one vow I had kept to God and to myself. I slept with a man who was not my husband, and worse than that, a man who was someone else's husband. I have never felt so much hatred toward myself than I did after that. Eventually she found out about the affair and he moved in with me. She had been considering marriage counseling, which of course I didn't know, and she was heartbroken over the betrayal she felt. She and I talked about everything because I felt I at least owed her that. I apologized profusely but I knew she wouldn't be able to forgive me just as I knew I'd never forgive myself. She still hates me, and I want her to. I can't defend a single decision I made because I KNEW it was wrong.

This past October I married that man. I wish I could say there is a happy ending because I hate a sad love story as much as the next person, but I can't. I can say that no matter how we found each other, I love him more than life itself. He is my best friend, my confidant, and a far better man today than he was the day we broke his vows. I just can't get past it. I can't let go. I feel like my decisions ruined the life of a woman who didn't deserve it and at the same time, broke me.

I hate that I disappointed God. I don't know how I let myself get that low. I know that I can never truly move forward, I will never truly be happy, until I can forgive myself but I can't because I know I don't deserve to be forgiven.

I have been finding my way back to God. I know that he never left me, I left him and I know that He has forgiven me because I have begged him for forgiveness. God's love is enfolding me. My life is changed but I am still miserable. I truly don't know what to do. How can I forgive myself for what I did? How can I forgive my husband for what he helped me do? I have said I forgive him, and I have even felt like I do, but there are always those moments when I fear that he will leave me the way he left her, and I hate myself for that but I feel like I hate him for that too. I know how awful this all sounds and I pray that you can find it in your heart not to judge me because of it, even as I judge myself.

Sincerely,

Conflicted & Unforgiven



Dear Conflicted & Unforgiven,

Thank you for your letter. I pray that my words may help in your healing process as you bring this burden to the feet of our Lord.

One line in your letter really stood out to me. It is this: "She still hates me, and I want her to. I can't defend a single decision I made because I KNEW it was wrong."

You are right and you are wrong. Here's why--what you did was very sinful and there is nothing you can say to defend that, we all know this, BUT grace and forgiveness is for sinners. If we only gave grace and forgiveness to the good people in our lives, what benefit would that be to anyone?

I know your pain. I went against everything that I believe and sinned against God and my husband. I felt sick about it, I felt useless and I felt dirty.

What I was feeling was the weight of my sin, but sin doesn't define who we are--God's grace does!

Without sin we have no need for grace. Do you know what I'm saying? Unless we can see the stain of our sin against the perfection of His immaculate grace we will never understand what a gift that grace truly is.
For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God. ~ Ephesians 2:8, KJV

Look at the Bible and you'll see that God used people who were broken, sinful, and tarnished to build his kingdom.
And I say also unto thee, That thou art Peter, and upon this rock I will build my church; and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it. ~ Matthew 16:18

Peter is the same man who later denied Jesus Christ hours before his death. Imagine that. Jesus vowed to build his church upon the faith of this believer and this very same man did the unthinkable by denying his Lord, and his friend as He was being led to His His crucifixion.

My servant Peter was not changed in a flash from a simple fisherman to a great leader and teacher, but through the very time of faithlessness -- through the very time of denial -- I was yet making him all that he should be. Impetuous spokesman as he always was, ready to lead the other disciples, Peter could never have been the after power he was, had he not learned his weakness. No man can save, unless he understands the sinner. (God Calling April 4th)

And finally, I'm reminded of something that my dad told me months before he died. They are simple yet powerful words, "God doesn't care about what you did yesterday. He's concerned about what you'll do today."

It sounds to me like God has offered you grace and a new beginning. You're standing at a crossroad in your life where you can either hang on to the pain of your past or move forward walking in grace.

If you'd like to read more about my experience, you can find it here: Grace is for Sinners.

You are loved by an almighty God,

Darlene Schacht



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Friday, March 23, 2012

Esther Bible Study - Chapters 9 & 10


Esther 9:1-3

Now in the twelfth month, that is, the month Adar, on the thirteenth day of the same, when the king's commandment and his decree drew near to be put in execution, in the day that the enemies of the Jews hoped to have power over them, (though it was turned to the contrary, that the Jews had rule over them that hated them;) The Jews gathered themselves together in their cities throughout all the provinces of the king Ahasuerus, to lay hand on such as sought their hurt: and no man could withstand them; for the fear of them fell upon all people. And all the rulers of the provinces, and the lieutenants, and the deputies, and officers of the king, helped the Jews; because the fear of Mordecai fell upon them.

In the latter part of chapter eight, and now in chapter nine we see that the tables have turned. The Jews have power over the enemy. We can compare this to the power that each believer has been given by the Holy Spirit. When Jesus was on earth with His disciples, He sent them off to preach the gospel but not without assistance.

Behold, I give unto you power to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy: and nothing shall by any means hurt you. Notwithstanding in this rejoice not, that the spirits are subject unto you; but rather rejoice, because your names are written in heaven. ~ Luke 10:19-20, KJV

And just before His ascension in Acts chapter 1, He promised that power would come to all believers:

But ye shall receive power, after that the Holy Ghost is come upon you: and ye shall be witnesses unto me both in Jerusalem, and in all Judaea, and in Samaria, and unto the uttermost part of the earth. ~ Acts 1:8, KJV

In much the same way that God gave strength by the Holy Spirit to all believers, Mordecai brought strength to his people.

Do a little soul searching to find the evidence of the Holy Spirit at work in your life. Does it convict you? Does it comfort you? Does it guide you? Perhaps you can think of some specific ways He's at work:









Esther 9:4-5

For Mordecai was great in the king's house, and his fame went out throughout all the provinces: for this man Mordecai waxed greater and greater. Thus the Jews smote all their enemies with the stroke of the sword, and slaughter, and destruction, and did what they would unto those that hated them.

Reading this, I'm reminded of the verse from 1 John 4:4, "Ye are of God, little children, and have overcome them: because greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world." That's powerful!

Think back to chapter 8 where I asked you this question:

Read Ephesians 6:14-17. What does God offer in order to equip us for battle? One of your answers should have been, “the sword of the spirit.”

And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. ~ Ephesians 6:17, KJV

Without the sword of the spirit, believers are helpless to fight the battle against temptation, sin, and doubt. When Jesus was fasting in the desert for 40 days, He fought His temptation with knowledge and obedience to scripture.

Because of the Bible we are equipped to fight temptation too. Here is a great verse that shows us why we need to study the scripture, and why our obedience to truth is also important:

(For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ; And having in a readiness to revenge all disobedience, when your obedience is fulfilled. ~ 2 Corinthians 10:4-6, KJV

Knowledge of the word doesn’t merely help to defend us against non-believers who question our faith, it’s defends us against our own imagination, internal arguments, and disobedience. It is the light that guides our conscience and exposes sin.

What are some specific ways that knowing the Bible might protect us from sin? Can you think of any time in your life when conviction, knowledge or obedience has been there to save you?






Do you read the Bible on a regular basis? Is there anyway that you should be improving this area of your life? 








Esther 9:6-11

And in Shushan the palace the Jews slew and destroyed five hundred men. And Parshandatha, and Dalphon, and Aspatha, And Poratha, and Adalia, and Aridatha, And Parmashta, and Arisai, and Aridai, and Vajezatha, the ten sons of Haman the son of Hammedatha, the enemy of the Jews, slew they; but on the spoil laid they not their hand. On that day the number of those that were slain in Shushan the palace was brought before the king.

An interesting thing to note here is that the Jewish people didn’t lay hand on the spoil. However in Esther chapter 8:11, the King had given them every right to:

Wherein the king granted the Jews which were in every city to gather themselves together, and to stand for their life, to destroy, to slay and to cause to perish, all the power of the people and province that would assault them, both little ones and women, and to take the spoil of them for a prey. ~ Esther 8:11, KJV

It’s evident by their actions that there were fighting for their life not for the things of this world. This is the same fight that we’ve witnessed in Esther throughout the story. She is always focussed on the goal ahead which is to attain life for both her and her people.

What are some of the things you like about the character of Esther?








Esther 9:12-14

And the king said unto Esther the queen, The Jews have slain and destroyed five hundred men in Shushan the palace, and the ten sons of Haman; what have they done in the rest of the king's provinces? Now what is thy petition? and it shall be granted thee: or what is thy request further? and it shall be done. Then said Esther, If it please the king, let it be granted to the Jews which are in Shushan to do to morrow also according unto this day's decree, and let Haman's ten sons be hanged upon the gallows.And the king commanded it so to be done: and the decree was given at Shushan; and they hanged Haman's ten sons.

We know from the previous verse that Haman’s sons were already dead, so why would Esther request that they be hanged? My understanding of this is that a public execution would put fear into the people.

Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear. ~ 1Timothy 5:20, KJV

Esther 9:15-16

For the Jews that were in Shushan gathered themselves together on the fourteenth day also of the month Adar, and slew three hundred men at Shushan; but on the prey they laid not their hand. But the other Jews that were in the king's provinces gathered themselves together, and stood for their lives, and had rest from their enemies, and slew of their foes seventy and five thousand, but they laid not their hands on the prey.

Again they had opportunity to take the riches, but the Jewish people took none.

Esther 9:17-21

On the thirteenth day of the month Adar; and on the fourteenth day of the same rested they, and made it a day of feasting and gladness. But the Jews that were at Shushan assembled together on the thirteenth day thereof, and on the fourteenth thereof; and on the fifteenth day of the same they rested, and made it a day of feasting and gladness.


Therefore the Jews of the villages, that dwelt in the unwalled towns, made the fourteenth day of the month Adar a day of gladness and feasting, and a good day, and of sending portions one to another.And Mordecai wrote these things, and sent letters unto all the Jews that were in all the provinces of the king Ahasuerus, both nigh and far,To stablish this among them, that they should keep the fourteenth day of the month Adar, and the fifteenth day of the same, yearly. 

This feasting of gladness is still celebrated every year amongst the Jews on the 13th of Adar, it is called the feast of Esther. That is followed by Purim which begins at sunset of the same day and end at sunset on the 14th. However, Sushan Purim is celebrated on the 15th of Adar.

This is how Wikipedia explains it:

It was decided that while the victory would be celebrated universally on Adar 14, for Jews living in Shushan, the holiday would be held on Adar 15. Later, in deference to Jerusalem, the Sages determined that Purim would be celebrated on Adar 15 in all cities which had been enclosed by a wall at the time of Joshua’s conquest of the Land of Israel.

Also, a very interesting fact to note on this day: it is commonly accepted by scholars that Moses was born on the seventh of Adar (http://www.biu.ac.il/JH/Parasha/eng/tetzaveh/mrz.htm) and therefore, if Moses was circumcised six days later, this ceremony would have taken place on the 13th of Adar—the same day that the Jews triumphed over the Persians!

That’s very symbolic since circumcision represented the cutting away of the flesh, and the putting off of a former life. I love little facts like that!

Have you exchanged your sinful life for a new life? If not, you can make that decision right now by bowing your head and asking God to forgive you for your sins and inviting Jesus into your life. He promises new life to all who put their faith in Jesus. 

















Esther 9:22-23

As the days wherein the Jews rested from their enemies, and the month which was turned unto them from sorrow to joy, and from mourning into a good day: that they should make them days of feasting and joy, and of sending portions one to another, and gifts to the poor. And the Jews undertook to do as they had begun, and as Mordecai had written unto them.

“Rested--” did you catch that? The Jews finally found rest from the enemy. The New Testament talks a lot about rest, in fact so does the Old Testament, since the beginning of time when God rested on the seventh day.

Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. ~ Matthew 11:28-30, KJV

What this verse is referring to are those people who are trying to get right with God on their own merit. It can’t be done. The Old Testament laws were full of commandments and ordinance’s that were impossible for anyone to keep. There were so many laws within laws that trying to keep them was not only a burden it was impossible. “Righteousness” is one of the main themes in the book of Esther. This story has taught us that righteousness is imputed to us. It’s given to us freely through faith in Jesus Christ. The only thing that Esther did was come boldly to the throne. That is what each and every one of us is asked to do, “Come unto me...”

Sin is the enemy that condemns us to death, but those who come to the throne of grace find forgiveness, righteousness, and rest.

There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death. ~ Romans 8:1-2, KJV

Remember—there were two decrees that went out in this story: the first one sentenced the Jews to death, and the second offered them life. Those two decrees were symbolic of these two laws:

  • The law of sin and death
  • The law of the spirit of life

How does trying to get right on your own merit differ from living in obedience to the King? It might be a tough question, but I'd like you to think it through taking into account everything we've studies in these nine chapters.











Esther 9:24-28

Because Haman the son of Hammedatha, the Agagite, the enemy of all the Jews, had devised against the Jews to destroy them, and had cast Pur, that is, the lot, to consume them, and to destroy them; But when Esther came before the king, he commanded by letters that his wicked device, which he devised against the Jews, should return upon his own head, and that he and his sons should be hanged on the gallows. Wherefore they called these days Purim after the name of Pur. Therefore for all the words of this letter, and of that which they had seen concerning this matter, and which had come unto them, The Jews ordained, and took upon them, and upon their seed, and upon all such as joined themselves unto them, so as it should not fail, that they would keep these two days according to their writing, and according to their appointed time every year; And that these days should be remembered and kept throughout every generation, every family, every province, and every city; and that these days of Purim should not fail from among the Jews, nor the memorial of them perish from their seed.

The other Jewish feasts have been ordained by God, but this one was ordained by the Jews and has  since continued throughout the generations. As I pointed out earlier, it is an important feast among the Jews even to this day.

Esther 9:29

Then Esther the queen, the daughter of Abihail, and Mordecai the Jew, wrote with all authority, to confirm this second letter of Purim. And he sent the letters unto all the Jews, to the hundred twenty and seven provinces of the kingdom of Ahasuerus, with words of peace and truth, To confirm these days of Purim in their times appointed, according as Mordecai the Jew and Esther the queen had enjoined them, and as they had decreed for themselves and for their seed, the matters of the fastings and their cry. And the decree of Esther confirmed these matters of Purim; and it was written in the book.

Every time I see that Mordecai is penning a letter I’m reminded of the Bible written by holy men of God who were moves by the Holy Spirit. It says, that Esther and Mordecai “wrote with all authority.” There are many people who will scoff at the Bible saying that it is written by man, but those who have faith in Jesus Christ believe that it is inspired by the Holy Ghost. One of Jesus’ closest disciples—Peter, on who he proclaimed to build His church--confirms this to be true:

Knowing this first, that no prophecy of the scripture is of any private interpretation. For the prophecy came not in old time by the will of man: but holy men of God spake as they were moved by the Holy Ghost. ~ 2 Peter 1:20-21, KJV


As I mentioned in a recent chapter, Mordecai represents the Holy Spirit, and we've really seen that symbolism come out in this chapter.

Esther 10:1-3

And the king Ahasuerus laid a tribute upon the land, and upon the isles of the sea. And all the acts of his power and of his might, and the declaration of the greatness of Mordecai, whereunto the king advanced him, are they not written in the book of the chronicles of the kings of Media and Persia? For Mordecai the Jew was next unto king Ahasuerus, and great among the Jews, and accepted of the multitude of his brethren, seeking the wealth of his people, and speaking peace to all his seed.


The story concludes with Mordecai receiving a generous reward from the king. His importance also recorded in the book of the chronicles of the kings.

Their story inspires believers to trust God's wisdom and timing, and to stand strong in the face of persecution.

What I personally liked most about the story is that the King is ready and willing to fight for his bride!

That concludes this study. I hope you enjoyed it!

Find previous chapters here:

Esther Chapter 6



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You are loved by an almighty God,

Darlene

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