Being in need to survive an emotional affair is surprisingly common in these times. We must first understand that an affair with another person outside marriage is charged with emotion by both the person cheating and the person being cheated upon. A survey on the subject tells us that men are more likely to cheat than women, it also tells us that over 80% are married at the time of the affair and that the most at risk age group is the years between 35 and 55 and I liked this one, when asked who had cheated 90.3% said it was their spouse.
Before we can even begin to survive an emotional affair we must be prepared to accept some of the blame for it occurring in the first place. Hey! I am a man and I have been through it more than once I am not exactly pleased to say, but it happens and in almost all occasions it is because the person cheating is not happy at home and they will surely be giving signs to that effect. Men and women will not cheat if they are getting what they want at home and therein lay the basis to survive an emotional affair.
Almost all of marriages and relationships have been built up over a long period of time and the love will always run very deep as opposed to an emotional affair with someone at work or someone they met at a party or maybe just a one night stand with an almost stranger. These types of affairs have no substance or depth and will never take credence over a long time relationships and marriage.
To survive an emotional affair will never be easy. We will always be asking ourselves, how do I deal with the images in my mind? Will they cheat again? How do we restore the trust? Will it ever be the same again? Oh yes and also by the person that has cheated, will she/he ever want me again? Will she/he ever trust me again? How do I prove that I am sorry for what I have done?
We can survive an emotional affair if we try hard enough. But it will take time and a lot of understanding and above all we must be able to communicate and keep on communicating. The love is still there underneath the hurt and the pain. We must bring it out into the open. Help from professional people is available, never be afraid to seek it out.
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