Has your spouse fallen in love with someone else? Are you struggling to get over the fact that you are no longer the most important person in your spouse's life?
When your spouse has committed emotional infidelity they have put your marriage in grave danger...You essentially have to basic choices from here on out:
A) You can say "F You!" to your spouse and end the marriage now. This is a perfectly legitimate option for many people.
- OR -
B) You can work to save your marriage and get back together with your spouse.
In this article I'm going to be focusing on option B (although anyone who's undergone an emotional affair will benefit).
As you continue reading you're going to be learning how you can recover from your partner's emotional infidelity, and what you can do to begin rebuilding your marriage.
3 Steps to a Full Recovery From an Emotional Affair
As I said above, although these tips can help anyone whose undergone an emotional affair, they're really intended for those who want to get back together with their spouse and repair the marriage.
These steps are designed to help you rebuild your confidence, your love, and your marriage.
First - Make a Commitment to Your Choice
Remember when I told you that you had 2 basic options? Well, I really wasn't kidding about answering that. You need to figure out what you want to do, and you need to make a commitment to do it.
If you want to get back together with your husband/wife, then you need to commit yourself to a better marriage. You need to have every fiber of your mind accept the fact that it will be a painful process, but that you WANT to be back in that marriage.
If you don't want anything to do with your unfaithful spouse, then you need to commit yourself to getting out of the marriage.
What you should NOT do is sit around deciding for days on end. Figure out what you want to do, take a day to think about it and make sure you still want to do it, then create a plan to make it happen, whatever your choice.
Second - Be a Friend to Your Spouse
This is probably the hardest part of this whole process...Even though your spouse has cheated, you really need to work hard to build a friendship with them.
See, what happens in most marriages is that over time the relationship changes from one of love and tenderness to one of arguing, fighting and challenge. As a result your spouse turned to someone else for help, and that's probably what caused the emotional affair.
Now I'm not saying it's your fault, that really doesn't matter anyways. The point is that no marriage can prosper if your spouse doesn't think they can trust you with real problems.
So work to rebuild that role.
Third - Don't Forget that You're the Most Important Person
This is one thing that many men and women struggling to rebuild a marriage don't find time for, and ultimately, is probably the reason so many fail at affair recovery.
You see, it's great to work on forgiving your spouse, and it's awesome to try and regain your wife/husband's friendship, but you ALSO need to find 'you' time.
You need to figure out a way to get away from everything and have a few breaths to yourself. Collect your thoughts every once and a while, and I can guarantee that things will go a LOT smoother.
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